Love! Books have been written, civilizations destroyed and fortunes lost over the concept! I may have an odd way of interpreting it but the way I see it one loves but is not in control of who one loves. My concept may be a bit different.  I don’t love many: I can think of only about 5 or 6 people I could say I love. Why I love them I have no idea: its very complicated.  I believe there are many ways one can love and there are actually numerous subsets that would stump a transactional analysis guru.

When I feel love for someone it is very deep and unconditional. I love but I do not have to have someone love me back. There are people I love who may not even care for me, but that doesn’t enter into the equation. I still love them and would do anything for them. I love someone because of a connection that exists but that I can not define.  I don’t love many people but the ones I do I love unequivocally. At times they even treat me poorly but that doesn’t impact the love I feel for them .

Sometimes I have to distance myself from some people I love because of the nature of the relationship. Some relationships can be destructive and toxic and that’s all they will ever be. I have pride and I have a strong sense of accomplishment so if someone doesn’t care for me it doesn’t matter: I’m pretty contented with how I developed as a human. How can you love someone if you don’t love yourself?  Relationships are not bilateral contracts. Believing they are is why one gets hurt when one is rejected: they are strictly unilateral.

So, I love you but if you don’t like me it’s ok I’ll get by!